Christmas is a time for family. We spend a whole month trying to find the perfect gift for someone, planning what food we’re going to feed our loved ones and seeing people we’ve neglected a little bit over the year. For me, Christmas has always been about the people I love.
Navigating our way through our first one without Aneurin is proving to be incredibly difficult. Harder than I anticipated in some ways. Every time I write ‘Love Elena and Haydn’ in a card or on a gift tag I do it with tears in my eyes because I should be adding ‘and Aneurin’. No matter how many non-baby-related activities I do, there is still a huge Aneurin shaped hole. I shouldn’t have time to watch all six Star Wars films back to back or be able to drink my body weight in Baileys. This isn’t what we were expecting this Christmas to be like and it’s hard to accept that this what it is.
We’re taking Christmas at our own pace and not forcing ourselves to do anything just for the sake of ‘making an effort’ or jollying ourselves along. With that in mind we haven’t decorated our house in the usual over the top manner that we (well, I!) do. Instead, I bought a small snowy pre-lit twig tree to decorate with special ornaments for Aneurin. We’ve decided it will be his tree for us to decorate every year. In order to do that we needed some ornaments fit for our precious boy. There are lots out there, some traditional, some unique but all quite special.
1. Egg clasp bauble – Write a letter to your baby on Christmas Eve and pop it in the egg. When it’s time to take the tree down put your letter in your memory box to read in years to come. You can also choose to have your baby’s initial strung round the ribbon.
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2. Christmas in heaven angel – This sweet poem is engraved on a wooden angel and can also have your own small message put on the other side.
3. Personalised glass angel bauble – An angel for your angel. A little glass angel is encased in this handcrafted bauble that can be personalised with three lines of text.
4. Penguin family – Perfect if you have living children too so you can show them and anyone else who enters your home that your lost baby is very much an important part of your family. You can have up to six penguins, either with names or without.
5. Laser cut penguin family bauble – Another cute penguin family but this time a little more modern on a flat acrylic disc. This also goes up to a maximum of six penguins so perfect if you have a lovely big family.
6. White feather bauble – White feathers are seen as a sign from your lost loved one, especially in the baby loss community so it’s no wonder that this bauble is a popular one. Your baby’s name can be printed on the feather which sits inside a glass bauble. Simple but meaningful.
7. Bespoke handprint decoration – All you have to do is message the seller an image of your baby’s handprint and they’ll engrave it onto either a frosted acrylic bauble or a solid bamboo one. Completely unique to your precious little one.
8. Personalised glitter star decoration – This wooden star can be covered with gold or silver glitter on one side or left plain. You can choose any wording you like so it doesn’t have to just be your baby’s name, it could be something very discreet. It’s also a budget friendly option at only £3.50.
9. Personalised gingerbread man – A traditional clay gingerbread man ready for your baby’s name to be ‘iced’ on. Sweet and simple.
10. Engraved reindeer decoration – Choose from a standing or jumping reindeer complete with bell round his neck to be engraved with either your baby’s name or a short message.
Mrs D x